Further Reading
Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson
Impossible Parenting: Creating a New Culture of Mental Health for Parents by Olivia Scobie
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern
A good read for couples wishing to increase connection and availability to one another. Draws from EFT and attachment research. Written by Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern
Impossible Parenting: Creating a New Culture of Mental Health for Parents by Olivia Scobie
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern
This is an excellent introduction to attachment within relationships. Links how emotional experiences can influence our relationships and reviews specific strategies to increase security within our relationships. Written from a consensual nonmonogamy perspective but contains useful information for all couples, in my opinion. Definitely a good resource to support couples counselling.
Impossible Parenting: Creating a New Culture of Mental Health for Parents by Olivia Scobie
Impossible Parenting: Creating a New Culture of Mental Health for Parents by Olivia Scobie
In my opinion, every new parent needs to read this book. An excellent read that dives into all the pressures parents face in our society, helping to normalize the burdens new parents feel and offers a shift in perspective that can protect new parents’ mental health.
Good Moms Have Scary Thoughts: A Healing Guide to the Secret Fears of New Mothers by Karen Kleiman
Karen’s books are an excellent resource for all parents to normalize and understand all of the changes postpartum and their effects on one’s mental health.
This book full of short comics and exercises addresses a common but often not talked about experience that new parents go through: scary and intrusive thoughts, such as:
What if I drop him? What if I snap and hurt my baby? Mothering is so hard—I don't know if I really want to do this anymore. Gosh, I'm so terrible for thinking that!
What About Us?: A New Parents Guide to Safeguarding Your Over-Anxious, Over-Extended, Sleep-Deprived
A guidebook of short essays, comics, and quick journal prompts about the stressful newborn stage, the struggles that so many new parents face, and the skills you need to tap into your strength as a couple.
The Postpartum Partner: Practical Solutions for living with Postpartum Depression by Karen Kleiman
This is a hands-on, practical guide to help partners deal with the impact of depression after the birth of a baby.
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff
A wonderful read if you want to step back from self-criticism and towards mindful self-compassion. Kristin is a leader in the field and this book offers lots of insights and practical tools that you can integrate into your life. I find some of her wording a bit… frilly (lots of “darling” “sweetie” and such – clearly a southern girl) but if you can get past it, this is a great read.
Daring Greatly by Brene Brown
We live in a world of “never enough.” We all struggle with moments of vulnerability and insecurity. Brene encourages being brave and daring, moving from shame to compassion, connection and courage. She also has a great Ted Talk (The Power of Vulnerability). Really, I recommend anything by Brene Brown.
Other Reading Lists
Other Reading Lists
Check out these links for other suggested reading lists:
Canadian Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
https://camft.ca/Recommended-reading
Postpartum Support International
https://www.postpartum.net/resources/store/